Be a Friend
January 21, 2021 4:22 am Leave your thoughtsI made a post about a long-standing friendship I have…20 years. Wow. I’ve known this person almost as long as I’ve known Cleo and Trent. It feels interesting reaching an age where you were conscious enough to form friendships and maintain them because you want to, not because you have to.
When you grow up/go to school, you’re still a kid, your brain isn’t fully f
ormed, you need peers to get through schoolyard bullshit and teen angst. You’re going through similar things as your friends and you find your people in the same situation…but those people don’t always stay. You grow up, move, change schools, go to university, some die, some get married (whatever regular people do.) Just because you’re friends in school for eg, doesn’t mean it’s forever.
When you make a friend as an adult, it’s because you consciously made the decision to include that person in your life. You make time to maintain those relationships because they’re worth something to you. People say they grew apart etc and that can happen, we all have busy lives but friends make time.
Some of my friends are not as invested in the historic information I look into, they don’t really care about what certain organisations are doing with advanced technology, they don’t share the exact view or politics as me…and guess what? It’s never mattered. I can’t think of a time when I’ve been angry because they didn’t want to know everything I’d just found out, or when they have been frustrated with my ramblings on Deep State or underground bases in relation to my writing. –Something to keep in mind while the mainstream media pushes division to get clicks and drama.
We are all raised differently and we have many different experiences or educations that shape our worldviews, opinions and lifestyles. It’s what makes people interesting and how we can all learn from others. The real world and real friends don’t wake up angry at what they perceive is “the other side.” Real people aren’t always outraged, and would rather focus on similarities/things in common than create conflict where it’s unnecessary. Know your enemy. It’s not your neighbour, even in these times. When you are distracted and divided or stressed, feeling alone…that is when you are vulnerable to accepting bullshit perpetuated to keep you/your mind under control.
I’m lucky to have the people I’m surrounded by. And now I feel old AF. But it’s good. It’s important to find friends who support you, who let you be a fucking savage with your humour and stick around for decades to grow with you. You have to find people who aren’t jealous when you take a breath and phoenix out of ashes, and who don’t harbour jealousy or a secret wish for you to fail. Get the ones who will shake their head saying “That bitch said whatttt to you?!” Get the ones that say “Wow, you got three new followers? That’s awesome, keep it up!” and even the ones who text you and say “Um, excuse me, but when the fuck is Red Cowboys coming out?”
Tried to paint a Phoenix once. Failed.
It’s very nice to know that while the world descends to Hell, you can have people next to you who will tell you when your hair is on fire.
TLDR:
*Really? THIS post is too long? Okay.
*Short post today, it’s hot as balls and I’m low on sleep.
*Find good friends. Quality is far better than quantity. I’m blessed with both but your inner circle is your reality show cast and they are your soul’s mates.
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